it allllllll changes...

I find it interesting when people who have no children tell me that they are "sooooooo tired". I find it even more interesting when people who have no children, offer to watch your kids and tell you how important date night is, and when you call in your favor to actually have a much needed date night with the Husband, they suddenly have to "call you back" and/or never respond to text messages or answer the phone.....

Today was awesome. We bought a Christmas tree, we did some shopping, the boys had an awesome nap time and to top it all off - My Husband finally got hired for a well paying job after being laid off for nine months. Yes, NINE long stressful months. We have budgeted our asses off to survive, given up every possible amenity that would entertain us, forgot all about date nights and sacrificed almost everything to have enough money to keep our kids bellies full and keep them warm at night. I think that after a very stressful time, we deserve a night to just enjoy and celebrate the fact that everything just might be ok...right? I think so....

Why people, why? Why do you like to do this to us parents? Here is what I think:

#1- you guys like how it feels....

It feels good to hear someone say that they want to help and its a wonderful feeling to see that you put a smile on someone by saying those magical words. Its like the Big Corporate Office saying to the protesters outside the office "yes we will give you all fat raises, full benefits and an awesome retirement plan-just get back to work", and surely enough it never happens. Just False hope.

#2- you guys are scared shitless of what life with children is actually like...

no one likes to stay at home every day. no one likes to be home every single friday or saturday night. everyone wants some type of social life and feel like they are connected to "The Scene". Life as a parent is a reminder to you that its total isolation some days, and life as you selfishly know it officially D-E-A-D! I scare you.

#3-pure selfishness...

It's not your fault your selfish, seriously. You are totally ignorant to being a parent. You sleep in whenever you want, you eat dinner at 8:30 pm, enjoy fancy dates with your significant other on your weekly "date night" and buy anything your little heart desires without having to consider what it is doing to your bank account. I aint mad at ya. I used to be you. Your life belongs to you and that is great....but your selfish and wont understand it until you pop out a baby or two.

Here's my thing. I know that I chose to have babies, and would never change it. But don't lead us parents if you never plan on following thru. It's just bad form....and until you have babies a word of advice- Enjoy your selfishness, cause after the children come- IT ALLLLLLLLL CHANGES.

oh well, maybe we can celebrate some other time.....(oh yea, that will be your motto as well)